Your Covid relationship stories
We asked our readers how the pandemic affected their relationships. Thank you to everyone who shared your stories.
“I entered into my first romantic relationship in a decade during this time. We met on a dating app, had a beer, and spent three hours on a cold patio. The next date was a hike, and on the way back to the car, I said: “Wanna hold hands? I’ve got hand sanitizer.” We had a very hot makeout session next to my Christmas tree with no kissing (the masks stayed on!) I was dropped off by him that day. I informed my pod that evening that the masks were going to be taken off for date No. 3. We just celebrated a year together.” — Linda Anzalone, Portland, Ore.
“When the pandemic started, my husband and I were distant ships passing in the night. We have two children, and have been together ever since we were 17. All of a sudden, we were with each other all the time — on opposite ends of the couch. We decided to try edibles, which is legal in our state, to escape some of the reality. For a few hours, we’re able to be giggly and worry free. We have found our love and feelings for each other again, something that was hidden beneath years of stress, hurt feelings, sleepless nights, and stress. It has been absolutely transformative.” — Mia Newton, San Jose, Calif.
“I’m polyamorous and pansexual, so being in multiple relationships at once was a staple of my prepandemic life. Living a polyamorous lifestyle has become nearly impossible due to lockdowns, shelter in place orders, and a slew of new variants. While monogamous/ monoamorous folx can just hunker down and pod with their one partner, I have to make difficult decisions about which partner(s) I’m going to continue seeing in person and which relationships are going virtual. But, I will say that polyamorous people have an advantage when it is about navigating around Covid safety protocol. My monogamous friends are all complaining about how awkward and hard it is to negotiate Covid boundaries before a first date, but the polyamorous community is so used to navigating boundaries around multiple partners, sexual health, kink, etc., that navigating around Covid boundaries is second nature.” — Eliana, Atlanta
“In June 2020, my wife left for Greece with the kidsbecause our house was filled with tension. My 13-year old son felt trapped at home, and the streets were empty. It’s hard to remember how it was. They were gone 15 months. I was bitter about their departure. Things happened while they were away — a kidney stone and a torn meniscus. I closed down a business. I moved out our apartment. I went to Greece twice during the last 15 months. Their lives were filled with family, food, and the Greek version lockdown. We both had changed when my wife returned. We don’t have much in common anymore. Our differences — age, culture, work — have become what defines our relationship more than what we have in common. I still love her, and I think she still loves me, but it is very difficult, and I am not sure if we will make it.” — Anonymous, New York City
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“My first date was fully masked, so I didn’t know what the person I was dating looked like. We unmasked 12 feet from one another at night, in low lighting. I squinted to try to see what he looked like far away and in low light.” — Tiffany, Philadelphia
Source: NY Times